NYC Girl

“The Sisterhood”, an organization against domestic violence is on Facebook. They write a lot about it and everything is so relevant to what Linda went through with her loser of a husband. Another thing I found out is that he abused his first wife too. She was so afraid of him that she moved and didn’t tell him where she lived. She had to fight him for child support and, of course, Linda paid all his legal fees AND the child support because he wasn’t working. His family knew what a loser he was, how he abused his first wife, his drug abuse, his propensity for violence – and they never said a word. His step-father is a retired cop for God's sake, he should have done something.  The idiot's police record speaks for itself – assaults – but the police never took that into consideration when he was lying to them saying that Linda hit him. The saddest part is that his family knew what he was and had a chance to get him help. Maybe they were afraid of him, but that wasn’t a good excuse to put Linda and the kids’ lives on the line, not to mention any innocent victims who might have been in the way. It was Linda’s problem as far as they were concerned. God I wish I knew what was going on. Linda just wanted me to think everything was fine. She wanted to “fix” it herself.
This is what these losers put you through – this is what Linda went through. His family believed him and blamed Linda too, so she was up against them on top of all her other problems.
-Falsely accusing you of being the abuser (he would hit her and then run to the neighbor’s house and say Linda hit him and he’d call the police. And guess what? The police believed him!)

-Yelling and Screaming (the kids still have nightmares of him screaming at Linda).

-Unwarranted Accusations (he told the kids she was a “slut.” He told everyone else she was cheating on him (even though they were separated and the divorce papers pending). Meanwhile, he had a 16 year old girlfriend but that was ok.

-Ignoring your feelings or making fun of them (he actually told her that anyone can become an R.N., it wasn’t anything special, that even HE could do it. What a joke.)

-Isolation from your friends or family (He kept breaking the phones and stealing her cell phone).

-Stealing, destroying, selling or giving away things that are important to you. (He would come into the house and make it look like a break-in and take her mortgage money and the kids’ food money. He took their TV and stereo. He even took the kids’ Christmas gifts! His family still had them after he killed my sister on January 22nd. How do they live with themselves?
This is by no means everything – there is so much more I can write. All in due time. Linda’s life could have been saved by the only people who knew the truth, but they were too busy going to AC, having parties and dinners, and staying as far away as they could from that freak she called a son.